I’m launching a translation service!
Has it ever happened to you that everyone’s being polite and generous and as a result no one gets what they want? It could be something simple, like you just want to stay home and eat in, but you think the other person wants to go out, and because you don’t want to impose your desire on the other person, you both say you want to go out when really you both want to stay in, and so no one gets what they want, which all along was the same thing: staying in!
This could be a polite Midwestern thing, so maybe it hasn’t happened to you. If not, kudos to you for being so bossy. Just kidding, we all wish we were as self-actualized as you.